Category Archives: Beautiful Porn

Deep Throat Education / Selina’s Slow Motion Blowjob Debut

Jemma gives a sensual deep throat blowjob

 

With all of the excitement from yesterday’s huge news of the soft launch of The Art of Cunnilingus, we didn’t get to show off yesterday’s second update of the Educational Series on The Art of Blowjob. The lovely Jemma is back again to show off her deep throating prowess. Now, this isn’t an epic deep throat video featuring all the sword swallowing and face fucking you can take… It’s about the introduction to deep throating and how to enjoy it as a beginner. It’s about accepting where you’re at and not beating yourself up about little mistakes and choking incidents. As much as learning is about techniques, it’s also about the ways in which we treat ourselves and each other during sex. This is what I personally hope for in terms of the way our Educational Series pan out for both sites.

Blowjob in an auto shop with Selina

And then today is Thursday, so it must be #SloMoBloJo day! We have a new face in this update: the gorgeous Selina. Not only does she have a new and VERY beautiful face, but she also has a killer body. As someone with a large bust, I do have an undeniable attraction to lovely curves and Selina certainly has them. She was in the auto shop putting things away for the winter and decided to rip off her clothes and go to town on her partner Parker right there! I can’t blame her… Parker’s that perfect mix of cute and handsome. Oh, and his cock is juuuust right. This is a great blowjob with sensual slow motion not only for the oral sex, but also for luxuriating over the pendulous swing of Selina’s great breasts and the subtle motions of her hips as she sucks and strokes him to an impressive cumshot, which she then licks up.

 

A Sexy SFW Teaser with Renée

Renée is just too sexy to relegate entirely to members only, so we decided to create a SFW teaser video featuring a little bit of what you can expect on The Art of Blowjob if you’re not already signed up. This is the kind of tease that makes your mouth water, your pupils dilate and, well, let’s just say that hardness/wetness isn’t far behind.

It’s always interesting to see where the line is when it comes to Youtube and what we can get away with as technically safe for work. It seems like thongs are okay, as is toplessness, provided there’s no nipple involved. So, if you’re craving a little wisp of The Art of Blowjob without actually going to the site (at work, on the bus, in church?!) you can always check out our teaser videos.

What do you think about this kind of seduction? Would you like to have a woman take control of you, kiss you nice and deep, push you up against the wall and then have her way with you? After all, you have to know that with a site like ours, it doesn’t end where this video does. As a dominant woman, Renée is a dream come true for me. I hope she’s the same for a lot of you… Sometimes it takes a video like this to unleash these types of desires. Feel free to share them here.

A Photo Update with Heidi and Jessy

Jessy and Heidi touching each other

It’s almost shocking to type this… It’s been over 2 years since we posted a photo update on The Art of Blowjob. Slowly but surely, we started to “realize” that videos were the wave of the pornographic future… Or at least, that’s what the industry was trying to make us believe. We still took photos, but they were used as promotional pictures and teasers as opposed to the main event.

Over time, we got into the habit of focusing all our attention on video, except for one thing… We missed including photos as part of the beautiful porn experience. Photography is a highly artistic medium and it brings out a very different side to what we do. It’s nice to include it as an option for those who like to tease themselves with intense moments of connection before proceeding to the non-stop action of a video.

We decided to bring back the photos with a stunning set featuring Heidi and Jessy (and a little bit of Gabriel for good measure) to show the awesome sensuality between these two beautiful women. They are caught on film with warm sunlight on their skin as they play around together, kissing and caressing each other and occasionally allowing Gabriel to have a little touch, too. This is teasing at its very best, showcased in a truly artful medium. Let us know if you want to see more photos on the site! We’re happy to oblige. Of course, the videos stay… We’re just interested in playing around with all our beautiful possibilities to showcase sensuality.

Wanna Make a Sex Tape?

 

I’ve become kind of obsessed with a new idea: helping people to make their own sex tapes. I love getting to shoot porn of myself with my partner for a variety of reasons: it’s creative, I get to see myself as I want, I get to have it for posterity… It’s exciting! Of course, it’s not reasonable to expect everyone to be able to be in porn for a whole host of scenarios, but they can make sex tapes. Honestly, it’s hard to imagine not being at least pretty curious about what I look like during the act… And even harder to imagine not wanting to watch it after with my partner.

Now, I’ve discussed the realities of making sex tapes on panels in the past, and it is definitely fraught. Emily Morse wrote a piece for Glamour magazine recently all about how you can do lots of fun stuff on video, but then you have to delete it immediately. That kind of bums me out, but I do see the point. There are other options, like having a mutual delete date upon breaking up or having it stored exclusively a hard drive which requires two separate passwords/keys/etc to gain access. I also suggest drawing up a quick contract indicating that any attempt to publicize the content would result in serious legal action.

But I digress! If you could learn how to make your own beautiful sex tape, would you? If there were workshops or more articles about ways to safely and consensually make something high-quality and erotic for your private enjoyment, is it something you would do? Or would you have a videographer come in to capture the magic, make it look good and then give you the sole copy? I’m always curious to see if this is something that actually appeals to the average person, or if it’s a desire mostly reserved for us wild and crazy porn types. Let me know!

The Moments Before the Blowjob

 

A lot of people ask me about behind the scenes elements of making a video for The Art of Blowjob. Often I talk about what a pain in the butt it is to get everything all set up and focused correctly, as I’m the camera person AND the person who is most obviously in front of the camera, but that’s not what I wanted to call attention to in this post.

There’s always a really nice moment right before we start filming, after everything is said and done with the technical components, setting up the right angles and making ourselves look camera ready… It’s just a moment to be kind of still and within ourselves, which is unlike anything that really occurs naturally in sex, or at least the kind I’ve had. It’s like foreplay for foreplay, where we just look and touch and sometimes lightly kiss. We exchange sweet words and make each other feel special, but it’s always kind of soft and imbued with a respect for ourselves within what we’re doing.. I’m not sure why it developed or exactly what purpose it serves, but it’s a nice way to ease into filming. It frames things the right way and allows us to be in the moment and be ourselves after all the artifice of the preparation.

I don’t know to what extent this happens on other porn sets, but I think this is a small aspect of what beautiful porn is about. When I was filming other people, I left them alone for a while when I could, or at least encouraged them to start out easy as opposed to launching right into the blowjob. It’s nice to have something outside of that which is ostensibly for an audience to put us into not only a sensual mindset, but one of mutual appreciation. It’s that much sexier, but also that much more connected.

Do you ever have these quiet moments before having sex, or are there other nearly meditative moments that you engage in before doing other things? It almost feels like the moment of holding hands and closing eyes before a show, or like a huddle before a sports team heads out to play… But much, much hotter, of course. I suppose it’s all about intimacy, though. What do you think?

My Feminist Porn Conference Paper Presentation

Sophie Delancey on a panel at the 2014 Feminist Porn Conference

At the behest of a few folks who were interested in reading my writing coming from a more academic framework, I decided to share the presentation I did at the 2014 Feminist Porn Conference at the University of Toronto. It was written while I was organizing the shoots on The Art of Blowjob, before actually shooting my own content. I’d have to say that, even though we’re clearly moving back to a somewhat more personality-oriented site, this is still relevant as I’m not coming to this work from a strong relationship-based angle. We’ve been down the road of a porn breakup before… I don’t want that to happen again. Also, please note that this is written as a presentation of a paper, so it’s more colloquial and begins with an introduction, which might actually be helpful.

What’s Really Real? Interrogating Authenticity

By Sophie Delancey

Hey everybody. I’m Sophie Delancey and I’m the vice president of a company called The Art of Adult, which is currently focused primarily on our Feminist Porn Award-winning website: The Art of Blowjob. I’ve been working for the company for four years, which is my entire post-academic career. Basically, my first “grown up” job was in feminist porn. My duties have evolved and expanded steadily over time, but the company completely shifted gears a few months ago, and it’s been a significant catalyst of change for my perception of the concept of authenticity in porn. I’d like to talk about that a little bit before I delve into the topic at hand to better contextualize my understanding.

Our company was started by a couple, and they were also the sole performers on the sites. They brought me on board to serve as PR and marketing coordinator, help with writing, develop the business side and generally expand our reach, but it was very much a couple-based concept at its core. We eventually started helping other couples to start their own sites or develop their content, following the same format of beautiful porn made by people in love. The sites weren’t explicitly created as romance porn or porn for couples, but we did fit quite nicely into the niche and the idea of “real love” informed a great deal of how we marketed ourselves. Note that I say marketed. That may sound somewhat cynical, but it’s the reality of making and disseminating porn… It’s nice to think that the work could speak for itself, but building brand identity is a big part of being recognizable in such a saturated industry. It also wasn’t untrue… They were together for nearly two decades, spent close to a decade of that making porn and they were very much in love, but obviously the couple-made aspect was emphasized as a selling point, which is largely due to the perceived authenticity that comes with sex between people who love each other. As someone in charge of the site’s PR and marketing, I made sure it was front and centre in everything that we put forth. We were amateur with attention to aesthetics, art porn with a heart. It was a great hook.

Obviously I’m speaking in the past tense. After a particularly nasty leg break from a motorcycle injury left her in the hospital for about a month, one half of the couple had a lot of time to think about things and realized that she had fallen out of love with her longterm partner and in love with someone else. It happens… That’s the risk when you work with your significant other, regardless of industry. Things were a little touch and go for a while, but ultimately we decided to continue on with the company, now working within a multi-model format. This made me more than slightly panicky, as I now had to completely change the basis of what we had been working on since the beginning and find a way to keep the ethical driving force of the company front and centre through the transition.

While our most obvious and identifiable trait is that we create very artistic videos and photos with exceptionally high production values, we quickly realized that it’s not the only reason people liked our content… It wasn’t that we were lacking in personality or that people didn’t like the look or skills of our lovely new performers, but some found that simply the concept of hiring performers to work for the site rendered it somehow less real. Being that I had always been isolated in a world where marketing porn was as simple as explaining it and letting the revolutionary mix of beauty and love serve as what we saw to be a refreshing alternative to mainstream offerings, I was a little bit at a loss in terms of what to do to respond honestly to those who saw our new content as less valuable for lack of a longterm romantic relationship. Yet, the more we shot in this new format, the more I was completely convinced that, not only was it not any less “real” than our couple-only roots, but it often contributed to the ethics we espouse by showing a wider variety of approaches to passionate, sensual oral sex and also by providing a fair wage and a safe, friendly experience for performers in our community.

So, what is authenticity when it comes to the adult industry? “Real” people, “real” sex and “real” porn are all thrown around as a marketing tactic within a variety of subsets from gonzo to mainstream to amateur to feminist porn. There are some common elements to the imagined ideal of “realness” across the genres.

“Real” people are seen as those who are not career pornstars, at least not in terms of performing with lots of different directors/performers/companies in an “indiscriminate” way. They’re doing it for the love of sex, not for the paycheque. They’re more or less conventionally beautiful. Perhaps they might have a few “flaws”, but they’re aesthetically pleasing in a mainstream way without any augmentation. “Real” people generally come in couples, or are at least off-screen lovers, too. For whatever reason, “realness” requires an imagined connection that goes beyond porn. We’re being let into their private world, they’re not fabricating it.

In terms of “real” sex, it’s marked in part by genuine, effortless orgasms — which is a good thing, a balanced give and take of pleasure (or an overwrought explanation of the context for supposedly one-sided sexual expression), relatively within the standard sexual script without relying on pornographic tropes or focal points. If they engage in any kind of deviance from the script (especially with regards to fetishes or Domination/submission) it’s contextualized with a lot of foot shuffling explanations of why it’s important/special to them, which is intended to diminish the stigma without the unapologetic enjoyment that might actually indicate a type of authenticity. Sexual difference is couched in toothless, crotchless pandering.

This means that “real” porn is made by “real” people having “real” sex. It’s all fairly restrictive and makes a lot of hetero or homonormative and monogamous assumptions, in turn creating implicit value judgements and putting up barriers to those who exist in the margins of this manufactured ideal. If your appearance and desires really do match up to these amalgamated prescriptive indicators, well, get on with your bad self. It’s not the way a lot of us are wired, though, and that doesn’t make us any less authentic… Or, if it does, that may not particularly matter with regards to ethics in porn.

I’m using “real” very much in quotations, as it’s an imagined idea in porn. Though many have argued otherwise, it’s pretty hard to act completely naturally when you’ve got a camera trained on you, regardless of whether it’s a just you or a whole cast and crew. It’s orchestrated spontaneity. Authenticity moves beyond well-worn illusionary tactics to address a deeply rooted mode of intent and execution from everyone involved in creating porn.

We’ve probably all seen the videos about “real sex” featuring adorable shots of fruits and veggies stacked up against statistics about bodies and sexuality… They’re really cute, and they’re eminently shareable, but they’re also pretty reductive. I’m not calling for the stringent fact-checking of a video featuring a banana giving to a guava, but I do think it’s endemic of the valourization of realness. While we are (largely) not personally making these viral videos, we are involved in their dissemination, often without much critical thought as to what this reinforces.

Statistics covering for realness is a dangerous rhetorical device. For example, a popularly shared stat (both in food-based viral videos and otherwise) is that roughly 2/3 of women can’t achieve orgasm from vaginal penetration alone, but to refer to clitoral stimulation as the “real” way women have orgasms would erase 1/3 of the woman who don’t necessarily require it: pushing towards a clitoris-centric sexual practice that does not serve all women. To go by statistical analyses of populations would reinforce the lack or representation that porn covers in many fields: race, sexuality, disability…

In Cindy Gallop’s now famous TEDTalk, she uses anecdotal evidence of her sexual experiences with younger men to indicate mainstream porn’s influence on sexual desire and understanding, particularly with regards to mainstream porn acts such as facials, rough sex, anal sex, spitting, degrading language and so on. This is certainly more helpful than a purely statistical analysis of sexuality. It yielded a call for sex (both on film and in life) that moved away from operating under porn’s auspices and towards a more nuanced and individualistic approach… The end result is a curated porn site called Make Love Not Porn where people can send in their “real world” sex on film.

While I think that both Cindy and her very talented curator Sarah have done a great job moving away from a total take-down of porn and porn-style sex to proudly providing an alternative and advocating nuance over any particular prescribed sexual script, the use of the word love, though pithy and evocative, still creates a minefield for the conflation of authenticity, valuation, ethics, sex and love.

Circling back to the current transitional dilemma in my professional life, there is a one-two punch coming from the concepts of “reality” in porn and the more substantial issues in parsing how the concept of porn itself does or does not stand in opposition to satisfying sex, and then we also have to think of how that translates to the audience. This makes porn into something beyond filmed sexual content that is, at least in some part, made for the  sexual excitement and gratification of an audience. It’s all a commodification of sex in a way. Porn is a construct of sorts, but at what point does it shift to porn, or are there degrees of pornness? Some distinctions between porn and “real world sex on film” are the lack of direction, a pre-existing relationship between performers, a homemade aesthetic and, above all, an impetus for creating porn simply because the performers are turned on and want to express that. There’s nothing wrong with this, per se, but we need to be very cautious with the messages we send. Succinct mission statements and snappy names don’t play out particularly well as nuanced explanations of both sides of the story, and confuse the minds of the porn audience, who will simplify the intent, as they’re often already busy getting off.

So, we’ve established that, when the audience is presented either implicitly or explicitly with love, they read this as more authentic than porn where people show up, shoot a scene, get paid and go on their way. We need to remember that people being paid for their work directly as contracted performers aren’t all that different form those who are in a relationship, making their own porn together and making money off of it through subscriptions or sales. The means and timing of the payment may be different, and those who are making and disseminating the porn themselves may be more directly implicated in the development and growth of their work, but that doesn’t necessarily change the impetus for shooting. While the audience assumes that contracted workers aren’t necessarily always as enthusiastic about the sex they’re having on camera, real couples often shoot even when they’re not 100% into it because updates need to go up. Sometimes it’s autopilot, feeding off of the established connection and the assumptions they conjure up to create the illusion of a special intimacy… Or utilizing the words and work of a particularly talented marketer. They might be falling out of love, because that’s what life is like sometimes. Sad but true.

At the best of times, there’s an intangible kind of magic between scorching hot lovers, but that can and does happen outside of established romantic relationships too. Some porn, even very orchestrated and high-concept porn, features mind-blowing chemistry between performers. That’s exciting too, and there shouldn’t be value judgement diminishing how great and powerful that is just because they’ve never fought over someone’s overbearing mother or made the other person cry in an Ikea.

This is where authenticity becomes a flawed concept in terms of how we identify porn. It’s hard to pin down where authenticity originates, and different people have different thresholds and definitions. What I do know is that it’s problematic because it invariably gets tangled up in judgement about motivations. Performers, particularly those who are involved in other kinds of sex work, are caught in the position of having to justify why they make porn and come up with a sufficient explanation for those who crave supposed signifiers of authenticity. There’s nothing wrong about doing porn for the money, and this emphasis placed on authenticity puts a premium on those who are having sex exactly how they want it, only when they want it and exclusively on their terms. Besides, the only way we can truly measure authenticity in arousal would be with a heat map… Someone should make that porn, though. I would totally watch it. Porn (as all sex work) can be a job. Jobs aren’t always the most satisfying things in the world, and that’s okay. Just because porn deals with sex doesn’t make it sacred. Furthermore, it makes the assumption that pleasure and arousal are diminished the further and further away we get from emotional intimacy, which is a bad thing for a whole bunch of sex-negative, slut shaming reasons, both inside and outside the industry.

In looking to positive representations of the balance between performers who are transparently hired to shoot porn and an emphasis on enjoyment and focused ethical practices, the best model I’ve found is one of community. Queer Porn TV, FTM Fucker, Indie Porn Revolution and the Crashpad Series are excellent examples of this. While they don’t push a touchy feely agenda, they have a clear mission statement and recruit performers who are both enthusiastic about the concept and want to make money by having sex on camera. It’s not an either or thing. It can and is a case of valuing all the best parts of expressing sexuality and acknowledging that people who make porn should be paid fairly for their time and labour. It’s positive without assuming that there’s any inherent value by virtue of assumed authenticity beyond that of making something fun and sexy. At the absolute best, this community extends to the audience, inviting them to become acquainted and aligned with what’s being portrayed, creating aspirational content which can be translated into their sex lives. Any evocative, thoughtfully made porn can achieve this, and it doesn’t rely on a particular kind of sex or love.

I initially set out to find some sort of message pertaining to the business side of porn, hoping to suggest a way or ways for those of us who produce porn to telegraph our authenticity (or lack there-of, I guess) to the audience, as though that is an ethical duty. The more I look at the concept of authenticity, the more I don’t think it’s as useful a tool as we might like it to be for the industry, especially in a feminist context. We can and should be transparent about the way we treat our performers and educate and inform our audiences to the best of our abilities without creating too many de facto sexual scripts or expectations but, we shouldn’t try to present our work in a vacuum with any attempt to qualify our work as authentic, or more authentic than others. There is no one authentic way that people should or shouldn’t have sex, make porn or enjoy their sexuality. The best we can do is to present our work as it is. There’s no hard line between fiction and non-fiction to aid porn literacy… There’s a whole lot in between, and we should move towards embracing the multitudes within feminist porn.

Slowly Coming Out

 

This has been an interesting few days. Since my first update went up this Friday, I made a conscious choice to not hide it. This meant that, when I went to a party with a bunch of old Montreal friends in attendance, I didn’t dance around the fact that I do porn while we were catching up. Somehow it feels quite different being a behind the scenes person to being a performer when it comes to explaining my work/life, and the questions have definitely shifted. Luckily everyone was really respectful and excited for me. I think this seems like a natural progression of my politics and passion, which is nice.

I wound up hanging out with a still friendly ex, which was another interesting adventure in discussing and contextualizing my decision. He already knew that I was planning on making the transition, but it was nice to kind of puzzle out questions of identity and what other people might think of my decision with someone who has a vested interest in me, but who isn’t so much an immediate part of my circle. It’s mostly just really great to speak to yet another open feminist man and hear the nuances of what it feels like to date someone in porn, under any circumstances. While you’re in the thick of it, you don’t always feel like you get an accurate portrayal of what it must be like to date someone involved with porn, so it was great to get more candid information from someone who has had the experience. I mean, hey, I’ve never dated someone in porn!

Finally, I told my sister. For whatever reason, I was bracing myself for the worst. Well, that reason is that she was pretty anxious when I told her I got a job working behind the scenes, so I figured she might not take kindly to this much more substantially public role. She totally surprised me and was very open and accepting. She gave me the whole spiel about potential repercussions, but I was able to really put her at ease. Then she made my heart sing by telling me that I had really helped to normalize porn and sex work for her, so she doesn’t see it as a negative or all that transgressive thing anymore. Of course it got emotional.

How would you feel if you were coming out to people about something big like this? Would you be scared, or would you try to just plough through and shrug off anyone who doesn’t get it?

So… I Already Made Porn (Kinda)

Sexy spanking with Sophie and Anja

Whack! What was that? Oh, I was in some lesbian spanking porn. No big deal.

Wait, what? Yes.

I decided to dip my toe every so slightly into the performing side of the pool, and shoot for The Spit Magazine (an up and coming adult site right here in Toronto) was just the right time. It was an arm’s length (heh) friend’s birthday and she decided that she’d celebrate it with a porny shoot at a sex club. This is very much in my wheelhouse.

Sophie spanking Anja in porn

I was signed on to bring my DSLR and shoot some pretty videos, but when I got there, I found out that Anja (the birthday girl) wanted to get her birthday beats caught on film. It’s no secret that I have a domme streak a mile wide and there was a bag of impact toys for play, so we got to talking and it quickly became obvious that this would be a whole lot of fun.

That said, I did my usual over-thinking thing and decided that staying (sexily) clothed and wearing a mask would be a wise choice. My body is fairly… distinctive, as is my pale skin and long, dark hair in my signature ringleted ponytail, but somehow the mask gave me a little extra sense of safety.

Hopefully you enjoy this peek into my sexual self. For the rest, it’s available at The Spit Magazine.

Sophie gives Anja a spanking with lots of cleavage

Moaning in Porn and in Life

Ohhhhh yeahhhhh. Ohhhhh baaaaaby. Juuuust liiiike thaaaat.

Sometimes (often) people talk about how they want to hear more “natural sounds” in our videos… I always make a funny face when I read this because, well, be careful what you wish for. Just how loud do you want it? How guttural do you want the screams to be? Cause we can make it happen, but it might not be so pretty. The thing about blowjobs in particular is they’re not all that noisy in terms of the giver… Maybe an errant slurp or a little gasp at the end of some prolonged deep throating, but not much, really. The moans come almost exclusively from the recipient… Meaning, in the case of our site so far, the man.

I get that there’s a sense of empathy that comes from hearing the orgasmic noises in a sense, and I have to say that Mike actually does a pretty great job keeping his moans just sounds, but a whole lot of us talk when we have sex. For instance, Billy is actually a talker, and there was a little fade out around the peak because, well, he and I have the common affliction where we both curse a blue streak when we come. Does that kind of action take you out of the moment? Or bring you more into it?

I ask both from a research perspective as someone who gets to say stuff like “Hey Mike! Mic your moans!” or “Hey Mike! STFU!” (not really) but also as someone who is increasingly thinking of making the leap into porn. I’m a real chatty Cathy in bed. Whereas most blowjobs are silent, mine are peppered with dirty talk, teasing words and witty repartee. Both my and my partner’s orgasms are loud as all get-out. So, in your opinion… Hot or not? And how much is too much, if there is a too much?

Our Place in Porn

The porn industry is interesting, because it is full of so many different styles, niches and approaches; it is as diverse and varied as the sexualities of those who like to watch it. And yet, when we think of porn, there are very specific images conjured up in our minds’ eye. We envision conventions in the physical appearance of the performers, in the types of sex they have, in the settings, the contrived dialogue… This is what our culture understands as porn, even though there are actually so many varieties.

This imagined porn does exist, and it’s considered mainstream for now, but the mainstream is shifting and it’s giving way more and more to creative people who have been daring enough to re-imagine it. We are among the few who have sought to not only re-imagine,  but revolutionize porn. We want to focus on sensuality without surrendering to soft core labels. We want to be able to film exciting, visceral sexuality and show that in an artistic and loving way. This is a labour of love, and certainly a risk, to look at a successful industry and to decide that it is worth challenging convention to make what you want because it is important to you. Beauty in porn is important to us.

We’re not a niche or a fetish. We’re not an amateur offshoot or a one-off experimental exploration. We’re grounding ourselves in the traditions of porn, but taking it to a much more nuanced, artistic place. This is where we find the beauty in porn, and indeed our place in it as well.