Category Archives: Porn

Deep Throat Education / Selina’s Slow Motion Blowjob Debut

Jemma gives a sensual deep throat blowjob

 

With all of the excitement from yesterday’s huge news of the soft launch of The Art of Cunnilingus, we didn’t get to show off yesterday’s second update of the Educational Series on The Art of Blowjob. The lovely Jemma is back again to show off her deep throating prowess. Now, this isn’t an epic deep throat video featuring all the sword swallowing and face fucking you can take… It’s about the introduction to deep throating and how to enjoy it as a beginner. It’s about accepting where you’re at and not beating yourself up about little mistakes and choking incidents. As much as learning is about techniques, it’s also about the ways in which we treat ourselves and each other during sex. This is what I personally hope for in terms of the way our Educational Series pan out for both sites.

Blowjob in an auto shop with Selina

And then today is Thursday, so it must be #SloMoBloJo day! We have a new face in this update: the gorgeous Selina. Not only does she have a new and VERY beautiful face, but she also has a killer body. As someone with a large bust, I do have an undeniable attraction to lovely curves and Selina certainly has them. She was in the auto shop putting things away for the winter and decided to rip off her clothes and go to town on her partner Parker right there! I can’t blame her… Parker’s that perfect mix of cute and handsome. Oh, and his cock is juuuust right. This is a great blowjob with sensual slow motion not only for the oral sex, but also for luxuriating over the pendulous swing of Selina’s great breasts and the subtle motions of her hips as she sucks and strokes him to an impressive cumshot, which she then licks up.

 

Soft Launch: The Art of Cunnilingus

Jemma Valentine gets cunnilingus in the kitchen

It’s finally happening! The Art of Cunnilingus is a thing! This has been in the works for so long. People have asked for it for years, and we always knew we wanted to do it, but shooting cunnilingus is a much more involved process and it takes a lot more to balance/neutralize the male gaze/female gaze issues that tend to come up when filming female pleasure. We want it to feel inclusive and exciting for everyone, and we feel like we’ve got the shots and the editing just so.

This is a soft launch. You might say there’s nothing soft about it, as a few people have made a stab at that pun, but it’s open in beta (or beta plus, perhaps) for the next little while. This means that it isn’t released to the public, just to members, social media followers and, of course, our wonderful blog friends.

The site is not unlike The Art of Blowjob, except that instead of blowjobs, it’s all about cunnilingus! For now, the site is made up of heterosexual-focused videos, but we’re working on a few amazing bisexual/lesbian/queer/lady-lovin’ updates coming real soon. Asides from that, we’re also developing a complimenting educational series all about how to give and get great cunnilingus. I think that’ll be incredibly helpful for a whole lot of people. You’ll all be well-rounded oral artists and recipients! And we’re also working on a photography area with artful shots of sensual cunnilingus in action.

You’ll see some familiar faces and get to see them in a whole new way. So far we have Jemma, Cassie, Roxy, Lena and Emilie on the site, but there will be lots more coming/cumming soon!

We’d love to know what you think of the site so far and what you’d like to see on it. We’re very open to hearing suggestions, input and ideas, so let ‘em flow like so many wet, lubricating forces. We’re mostly just so excited to finally show our view of equality and reciprocity as it pertains to the pleasure of giving pleasure. Women’s sexual satisfaction is very important to us, and it’s nice to finally embrace a niche where we can show, not just tell.

The Official Debut of The Art of Blowjob’s Educational Series

Jemma Valentine in the our new educational blowjob video series

OH MY GOD IT’S FINALLY HERE YAAAAAAAY!

Okay, now that we’ve gotten that out of the way, I can confidently say that we are having the soft launch of our brand new educational series on The Art of Blowjob. This means that every week we’ll be featuring a brand new video with a voice-over by yours truly detailing different tips, tricks, techniques and talking points for both giving and receiving truly beautiful blowjobs.

Practically, these are both the types of videos that will put you in the mood AND the types of videos that you can learn from. We’re still refining the set up and tone of the videos, as this is only our soft launch, but we’ll be bolstering our output with a few extra videos in the coming week for our official launch. Then we’ll be taking on the world and talking to everyone and anyone about how they can learn about oral sex. Why do I say oral sex so generally? Well, you’ll see soon… Very soon.

This has been a labour of love and something we’ve wanted to do for a very long time, but we had to make sure that it was the right time and we were doing it in the right way. As someone who is committed to sexual education and specifically its place in porn, this is a dream come true. Getting to be such a vocal (ha!) part in this project is amazing. We have lots of plans for it and about 150 ideas, with more coming every day in a seemingly never-ending list. This is so exciting.

I’d love to hear what you think of the project and what you’d like to learn about now that it’s actually out in the world. This is just another way to make porn beautiful, and it’s a very important one, too. Hopefully we can teach you all a thing or two. Check out the full video featuring the lovely Jemma Valentine and trust that it’s the first of many!

What is Porn?

Brunette Dahlia gives a natural blowjob

My pal Billy Procida of the Manwhore Podcast just finished reading Pornland by Gail Dines. To him I say: my condolences. She’s a very porn-negative feminist (“feminist”) with a very (purposefully) limited understanding of what porn is. Basically, all porn is gonzo to her and all porn is inherently and explicitly violent. She has more or less kept the same ideas about the entire genre/industry as porn has changed and grown in leaps and bounds, focusing on developing ethical roots and showing more and more different and nuanced depictions of sex, consent and pleasure. But it’s so EASY to use porn as a scapegoat and treat it as exclusively negative media, especially when you’re using it to prop up your flimsy arguments about sexual culture.

I had already planned to highlight a great interview with ethical pornographer Tobi Hill-Meyer done by the wonderful Lynsey G, but now it contextualizes the issues I have with Dines even more: porn is stigmatized as a concept more so than in its execution. By using softening terms like “erotica”, we other porn and distance ourselves by something which is ultimately just a medium worthy of a neutral value judgment. Hill-Meyer’s experiences feel very relatable to me:

“I grew up with second-wave anti-porn lesbian feminists, and we had a lot of conversations about [porn versus erotica] over the dinner table. For a long time, their response would be like, ‘Oh, you’re just talking about erotica.’ Because erotica is good and porn is bad. And I always resisted that.I wanted to be able to say, ‘You’re talking all this smack about porn but what you don’t realize is, whether you realize it or not, other people are taking the things you’re saying about the bad sexual media, and applying that to my sexual media because they don’t make the distinction between porn and erotica.

It sometimes feels like, ‘Erotica is what I get off to. Porn is what you get off to.’

In terms of more practical applications of this, there are divisions which I can even see between The Art of Blowjob and other more mainstream sites, though to a lesser extent than Hill-Meyer’s very personal/often interview-centred approach to making erotic content. The fact is, all adult content can be used as a jumping off point for discussion and it can actually be something to be proud of instead of ashamed of. While this may be a bit of a stretch from Dines’ view of porn (specifically gonzo porn) as being actively damaging, Tobi’s porn has been so valuable to her customers that she’s never actually had contested charges:

“There’s this whole situation where it’s like, ‘Hey, honey, what’s this charge?’ ‘I don’t know, I never made that charge!’ ‘Well you better call up the credit card company and tell them…’ And so there’s this whole kind of thing where the payment processors know that their costs are going to be higher in the adult industry. But I think that what that distinction fails to understand is that there’s still a wide range of things that can be considered explicit, and not all of them are going to have that dynamic. I’ve never had a contested charge. And like I heard yesterday, someone was mentioning something about how in doing porn scenes, fifty percent of first-timers are no-shows. And I was like, ‘Wow, I have never had a no-show.’ And just realizing the way in which my work is different on a practical business level… People buy my work because they want to support it. They want to see people like them. I get letters from people talking about how my work has changed their lives. When someone is that engulfed in their media, and it makes such a personal difference to them, [that] they have that conversation, it’s like, ‘Hey honey, what’s this charge?’ ‘Oh, let me tell you about it! And you should tell your friends, too!’

Unlike many other adult producers, I aim to create something that people are proud to purchase and support and many of my customers display their copy on a bookshelf or tweet photos when it arrives in the mail. I think that’s a big part of why contested charges have never been an issue for me.”

The rest of the interview is really fascinating and deals with navigating the world of making porn which seems less “pornographic” culturally-speaking than what we’ve cast as the mainstream/gonzo porn bogeyman. We come up against universal stigma because people like Dines keep running their mouths about how all porn is evil. The fact is, while a case could be made for the fact that all porn has some intrinsic value, I’m not going to go there right now. I will say, however, that LOTS of porn is valuable and not deserving of the derision we place on it.

The UK Bans Many Sex Acts from Porn

Sophie spanking Anja in porn

Me doing something banned in the UK with Anja from TheSpitMagazine.com

I’m sure that some of you have already heard about this absolute travesty, but the UK is banning a number of sex acts from appearing in British-made porn, specifically targeting online content creators to fall in line with the currently set standards for DVDs. No, blowjobs didn’t make the list, but here’s what did:

Spanking

Caning

Aggressive whipping

Penetration by any object “associated with violence”

Physical or verbal abuse (regardless of if consensual)

Urolangia (known as “water sports”)

Female ejaculation

Stragulation

Facesitting

Fisting

These are a few of my favourite things… But seriously, the things you see on this list are either BDSM/kink-focused or female pleasure-focused. You don’t see facials or anal sex on this list, even though they’re often depicted as similarly graphic. No. You don’t see male ejaculation on this list, despite the fact that female ejaculation is a real thing that is a response to physical pleasure. You don’t see face fucking (irrumatio) but you do see face sitting, either of which can potentially block airways, but only if you’re completely disregarding the way the human body functions… And fisting? Well, that’s a thing that a lot of people (especially women) really like. It’s a hallmark of more lesbian/queer-produced porn for a reason. Lube up, go easy, start slow and there shouldn’t be any problem! Vaginas (and anuses) are VERY resilient and accommodating.

This impacts small porn producers and sets a terrible precedent for other countries looking to censor adult content online. I presented on a panel at the Feminist Porn Conference this past year with a lovely UK-based spanking porn producer by the name of Pandora Blake and she wrote a wonderfully personal and impassioned response over on her blog. Here’s a little excerpt of the crux of the issue:

This is a ludicrous, badly written law that criminalises sexual minorities and small business owners. It predominantly targets the cottage industries of women, couples, queers and fetishists – people who are making enough to cover their costs or perhaps a little more, people who are making their own porn because the mainstream genres don’t cater to our needs.

Porn isn’t just about getting off… It’s also about seeing reflections of ourselves and our sexualities. Without safe, consensual depictions of kink and of women’s less “Porn Valley normative” pleasure, we lose something. And for what? A perception of safety of the performers? For the people watching? There are surely much better ways of addressing potential concerns outside of just banning it, but that would require interaction with performers and consumers, which is tantamount to legitimizing porn.

What do you think of these bans? Do you think this paves the way for laws like this elsewhere in the world? Do you think that there’s any merit to this type of legislation? Personally, I can’t find anything that couldn’t also be achieved by much less draconian means, but here we are.

New Monthly Contest: You’re the Director

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Have you ever wanted to direct porn? Well, of course you have. You couldn’t be more jealous of us for getting to make porn happen, right? Or something. Regardless, even though we love what we do, we’re going to relinquish our control for an update a month so that you (yes, YOU!) can have a swing at it. So, what does this entail?

This is a new contest that’ll be happening on a monthly basis. In exchange for your idea, you win a free one month membership to The Art of Blowjob! We do have a few rules to go off so that you don’t get too wild and outrageous. Here’s a little list of do’s and don’ts:

– Don’t send long scripts. A sentence or two for punctuating a thought might work, but it’s hard to talk with your mouth full and using mics when shooting porn just adds a whole other level which would take away from the intimacy of the shoot. Plus, blowjobs are more exciting and expressive when no one has to worry about remembering their lines.

– Do suggest particular blowjob styles, techniques and attitudes.

– Don’t offer up outlandish settings. We would love to do an intense cosplay on the moon, but we don’t quite have the budget for a rocket just yet. Keep things simple, please!

– Do feel free to suggest lingerie colours or materials!

– Don’t suggest particular models. Some people are available, some aren’t, sometimes people move on from doing porn… Best to keep things open!

– Do get creative with relationships and scenarios. How do people know each other? Sometimes that’s what makes things most interesting.

Send us your ideas! You can send them by Facebook, Twitter, Google+, Flickr, e-mailing TheArtofBlowjob@gmail.com or right in this very comment section! This first contest closes on Thursday, November 6th at 5pm EST and we’ll shoot it within the month. Then the whole process starts over again for as long as we keep getting fun, interesting ideas!

Everyday People Touching Pornstars

What would happen if you could touch a porn performer? Well, don’t try it unless they say the magic words or you might get smacked down or tackled by a few guards. I’m talking about two simple words: touch me. This is exactly what incites a flurry of passion (and fumbling and blushing) in this new and widely circulated video, which is a promotion for an erotic show happening in Barcelona. It’s based off of the First Kiss video (and all its ilk) and features real porn performers (who are primarily local and therefore not necessarily super recognizable outside Spain) and real porn fans.

So yes, it’s a touch gimmicky and it presents a fairly unrealistic scenario, but what really interests me is how diverse the reactions are when people are faced with their pornstar fantasy. There is enthusiastic consent to be touched, so they can go for it, but many opt for a kiss, some opt for foot worship, a little butt touching or, for one fan, the chance to touch breasts for the first time ever. It’s weird to think that seeing someone fondle boobs could be heartwarming, but it actually is. What this shows to me is that, although a lot of porn is fairly formulaic, our ideas of intimacy and sensuality that spring forth from watching that porn is incredibly varied and individualistic. All these fans could watch the same porn and be drawn to completely different aspects of the sexuality.

This is the kind of thing that gives me hope as a porn advocate. It’s not a huge eureka moment, but it’s a little insight into the way that our audience intuits our porn… No two people will see it exactly the same way, and that’s exciting. I’d love to know what you think about this video, so feel free to comment… What would YOU do if you could touch a porn performer?

Modern Love Takes on Love, Jealousy and Porn

Porn couple Kayden Kross and Manuel Ferreira

Kayden Kross and Manuel Ferreira at the AVN Awards – AVN.com

I’ll admit it… I’m a New York Times kind of a gal. It’s not that I defer exclusively to American news, but there is something about sitting in bed with a sweetheart and splitting the New York Times that just makes me feel alright with the world. While they have lots of great focal points, my interests in sex and love always pulls me towards Modern Love: a recurring feature about different true stories of mostly out of the ordinary relationships. So, imagine my joy when I saw that they were taking on a pair of pornstars in a recent issue.

Kayden Kross and Manuel Ferrara are married with children now, but the focal point of the story isn’t about how pornstars are people two and they can love and provide just as anyone else… It’s actually a story about the complexities of being in a relationship and being in porn, or at least that’s what it becomes for me. In a sense, I feel as though they’ve buried the lede. A lot of the content focuses on Kayden’s upbringing and struggle with wanting to fulfill her mother’s dreams of seeing her daughter through college and into a good job, but it’s hard not to feel a little dissatisfied by the way the story ends if that’s the main point.

What is much more interesting to me, as someone who has had to navigate porn and relationships together, is the fact that these two working porn performers decided on a very confusing compromise… At the time that the two were planning to move in together, Manuel asked Kayden to abandon her lucrative contract and seriously limit her career due to his jealousy issues. While asking a porn performer partner to stop making porn is well-wrought territory, the bit about his continuing career in porn puts a fine point on this.

Ultimately, she made her choice and decided to limit her performances to occasional girl/girl scenes, which is her decision to make. The article is frank about the double standard and the stress that comes with it, and it sounds like Kayden has a much more pragmatic approach to jealousy than her partner. It’s admirable in a sense, but it’s also frustrating to read in some ways. None the less, there’s something pleasant about this ambiguous end to the piece. These types of relationship hurdles are rarely tied up in a neat little package. Dating and sex and love are complex, regardless of whether it happens on screen or completely privately. Jealousy is a difficult dragon to slay.

How would you feel if you were dating an adult performer, whether or not your were involved in porn? I’m very curious to see how other people react, given my personal experiences with the matter. Let me know in the comments!